Of Doughnuts & Relationships

Have you watched the movie where in the man professed his feelings for a woman by telling her "You complete me"? I think most of us did. That's one of the most romantic movies of all time or so I thought. But is it really true in reality? The mind-set that another person can actually completes us - that is. Honestly, I used to believe that maybe someone out there could make me complete and vice-versa.

Kilig part of Jerry Maguire Movie

Back then, I thought that having someone special in my life could fill up the empty void in me. Void??? What void??? This is the feeling of emptiness that I cannot seem to fathom. Eto yung feeling na "parang may kulang sa buhay ko" na hindi ko mawari kung ano. I wanted so much to quest for the "missing part" that's why it led me to enter (dating) relationships. I thought that being in a (dating)  relationship could be the one I've been searching for, but I was mistaken. When the magic / spark has gone and the kilig and sweetness overload moments were over, the empty void would still be there. The worst part was that "the void" had become even bigger after the relationship ended.

Don't you just love doughnuts?!

The void in me was like a big doughnut hole that no munchkins (smaller doughnuts) could ever fill up. Sorry for the illustration, I was craving for doughnuts while writing this post.haha Seriously though, I am the big doughnut and the munchkins represents other people.
These munchkins regardless of its flavor just couldn't make the doughnut with a hole whole. It just wouldn't exactly fit. I think the same goes with relationships, even if I'd chose to be with the handsomest, the smartest or even the richest guy still he won't be able to complete me. I didn't realize that what I'm seeking for is something that I couldn't get from other people, until that moment came when I've encountered the love of God.

One of my faves! Bavarian!!!

I was looking all over for that missing piece when all I ever needed was God's love to complete me. He is the only one who can provide me with the love, joy, peace, security, confidence, validation,  acceptance and everything else that I'm longing for. He was the one who placed that void in me and He was the only one who could fill it up. The love of God has made me whole - turned me,  a doughnut with a hole into a Bavarian.



Does it mean that I don't have the desire for a committed relationship? No, of course not! Just like you, it's in my core to create relationship with others. I think, we are design to be relational in nature. We need a suitable partner just as it says in God's word. I'd still want to have someone who I could spend my lifetime with. It's just that now my reasons for entering a (dating) relationship have become deeper and mature. As much as I want to share these reasons with you now, I think this blog post is already long enough. Maybe on my future post. ;)


What's more, the relationship I am focusing right now is not like any other relationship. I'm certain that this is the best and the most important relationship that I can have in my lifetime - the one I have with God. The kind of relationship that's worth pursuing and developing. A relationship that continually gives me a vibrant, exciting, victorious and complete life. A complete life that I can share with others as well.